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Too often we hear about abuse and violent crimes happening towards women and children, a sad reality present in our communities. To that effect numerous organisations have been founded and governments all around the world have erected close to excellent legislation towards the protection of these venerable persons (women and children). Barely anything can be taken away from this nor can one deny the need for such protection or its continuance.

It is a common tradition that most societies tend to differentiate the roles played by males and females even as early as birth. From the colours of clothes the children wear to the toys they are bought. As the child grows up, so do the gender lines begin to be drawn and become more elaborate hence the separation of male and female, and the roles they play in whatever society they are in grow and become more defined. As a male member of my family, I remember being constantly taught on how and what a man is, that a man must protect his family, a man is strong, a man does not cry, a man provides. If the words where not spoken it was amplified by the difference in toys my parents bought for me and my sister. I always had plastic swords and guns whilst my sister had her dolls and teapots. I played cops and robbers with my friends, whilst my sisters had tea parties and make-up sleepovers.

a man must protect his family, a man is strong, a man does not cry, a man provides.

The end result was that, I was supposed to be as brave as a lion, as fierce as a bear and as protective as a wolf, but what happens when due to abuse and violations the lion weeps, the bear hides and the wolf is venerable? Nothing, absolutely nothing mainly because no one wants to admit it or dare speak that such can happen to a man. It is as if a taboo to be spoken of and we shun the few individuals who find the little strength in them to speak out and we crucify them and make a mockery out of them so as to never hear from them again. Men are being abused and violated in gross manners and that is a reality we have since time immemorial ignored and have failed to protect these vulnerable persons.

The end result was that, I was supposed to be as brave as a lion, as fierce as a bear and as protective as a wolf, but what happens when due to abuse and violations the lion weeps, the bear hides and the wolf is vulnerable?

We cannot keep silent any further on the matter, we are denying justice for these men who are abused and by our attitude towards men we put them in a position that they fear to report the crimes or even speak of it.

Yes, slowly but surely the some governments have created legislation to include the protection for men & to enable men to speak more openly about it. And the rest of the countries and their governments?  Well, for any legislation to be made law it takes time maybe even years, but real people will continue to get hurt till that time. This does not have to be like that. What roll shall you and I play in this?

 Let us be open about this on-going abuse to men, and give them a firm platform to air out their hurts and torture. The change must start with you and me and the simple acknowledgement that such gross violations are also happening to men. There is a need for every one of us to live in peace and harmony. To respect life and protect it. When a person is abused, it limits their potential in life; they become fearful and full of worry. Abuse damages a person’s social and educational development. There is also the risk of diseasing one with incurable diseases and viruses. The mental damage is irreparable. No matter how hard you try to forget or shove it to the back of your mind it will always come up. There will always be something that reminds you of the trauma.

The mental damage is irreparable. No matter how hard you try to forget or shove it to the back of your mind it will always come up. There will always be something that reminds you of the trauma.

Abuse in any form is a gross ill on humanity weather it is done towards a male or female, even though the main focus on this article was on male abuse. The sad part is that you are either affected by abuse or infected by it.”

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